Comments for My Disillusioned Self http://www.disillusionedself.com Just another WordPress weblog Wed, 07 Jan 2009 08:31:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 Comment on Fear by chinese searches http://www.disillusionedself.com/2006/12/16/fear/#comment-1843 chinese searches Sun, 04 Jan 2009 23:40:06 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=69#comment-1843 <strong>yo...</strong> Great job. But not enought info. Where can i read more?... yo…

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]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by JR http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-488 JR Sun, 21 Sep 2008 05:49:57 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-488 Bitter, party of one, your table is ready... Bitter, party of one, your table is ready…

]]> Comment on FOCUS by James http://www.disillusionedself.com/2008/01/13/98/#comment-404 James Thu, 18 Sep 2008 08:20:33 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=80#comment-404 Hi, I found your blog on this new directory of WordPress Blogs at blackhatbootcamp.com/listofwordpressblogs. I dont know how your blog came up, must have been a typo, i duno. Anyways, I just clicked it and here I am. Your blog looks good. Have a nice day. James. Hi, I found your blog on this new directory of WordPress Blogs at blackhatbootcamp.com/listofwordpressblogs. I dont know how your blog came up, must have been a typo, i duno. Anyways, I just clicked it and here I am. Your blog looks good. Have a nice day. James.

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by chiron613 http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-282 chiron613 Sun, 07 Sep 2008 15:49:56 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-282 First, you need to understand that it's not just "nice guys". Men do exactly the same thing with "nice girls". They ignore them, talk to them, take them for granted, and wind up dating the "bad girls" who are sexier, hotter, more exciting, and who wind up breaking their hearts. the "nice girls" may be a little plainer, maybe carry more weight, don't dress quite as nicely, whatever. They get passed up, too, just like the nice guys. It's not something unique to either men or women, but to people in general. And yes, there are different types of "nice guys". Some guys feign interest or caring in order to try to seduce women. That's not who this article is describing. It's talking about the genuinely nice, caring, compassionate men who get passed up because they're not all that exciting. The problem is that what gets our juices flowing isn't necessarily what makes a good partner. We often opt for the sexual, the passion, instead of what will work long-term. So we jump into the sack with someone who isn't compatible with us, get hurt, cry to our non-sexy friends, and do it all over again. If we're lucky, we eventually come to realize that passion, while important, isn't the only trait we need in a partner. We need honesty, loyalty, empathy, compassion, many other things besides a hot body and great technique. Often we can find those traits in the friends we've been overlooking, if we're willing to look a little more closely. First, you need to understand that it’s not just “nice guys”. Men do exactly the same thing with “nice girls”. They ignore them, talk to them, take them for granted, and wind up dating the “bad girls” who are sexier, hotter, more exciting, and who wind up breaking their hearts. the “nice girls” may be a little plainer, maybe carry more weight, don’t dress quite as nicely, whatever. They get passed up, too, just like the nice guys. It’s not something unique to either men or women, but to people in general.

And yes, there are different types of “nice guys”. Some guys feign interest or caring in order to try to seduce women. That’s not who this article is describing. It’s talking about the genuinely nice, caring, compassionate men who get passed up because they’re not all that exciting.

The problem is that what gets our juices flowing isn’t necessarily what makes a good partner. We often opt for the sexual, the passion, instead of what will work long-term. So we jump into the sack with someone who isn’t compatible with us, get hurt, cry to our non-sexy friends, and do it all over again.

If we’re lucky, we eventually come to realize that passion, while important, isn’t the only trait we need in a partner. We need honesty, loyalty, empathy, compassion, many other things besides a hot body and great technique. Often we can find those traits in the friends we’ve been overlooking, if we’re willing to look a little more closely.

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by Nice Girl http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-200 Nice Girl Thu, 28 Aug 2008 03:42:31 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-200 I have a guy "friend" who will tell you he is a "nice guy" who loves women but he is a bitter, angry man who really dislikes women. He knows I only want to be friends yet persists in wanting to give me foot rubs, paying for getting my hair done and trying to play with it...none of which I allow. I have twice cut off contact with him because I get sick of him being a whiny little bitch at 42 years old. Suck it up, life is not fair and not everyone you want will want you back. I have a guy “friend” who will tell you he is a “nice guy” who loves women but he is a bitter, angry man who really dislikes women. He knows I only want to be friends yet persists in wanting to give me foot rubs, paying for getting my hair done and trying to play with it…none of which I allow. I have twice cut off contact with him because I get sick of him being a whiny little bitch at 42 years old.

Suck it up, life is not fair and not everyone you want will want you back.

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by tom http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-191 tom Mon, 25 Aug 2008 01:35:04 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-191 Liz, that link to your guy didn't work. I think this is the link you were going for: http://waffleimages.nwpshost.com/files/7b/7bfafcea60c8124fdfc859a0dfa782280a3e2eba.jpg Peace Liz, that link to your guy didn’t work. I think this is the link you were going for:
http://waffleimages.nwpshost.com/files/7b/7bfafcea60c8124fdfc859a0dfa782280a3e2eba.jpg

Peace

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by Elizabeth http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-189 Elizabeth Sun, 24 Aug 2008 02:09:56 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-189 You seem to be confusing actually being a nice guy with hanging around with a girl, not asking her out and then hoping she'll fall in love with you. If the only reason you act like a friend is because you're hoping she'll eventually sleep with you... well, you're an idiot, obviously, but you're also not actually nice guy. You seem to be confusing actually being a nice guy with hanging around with a girl, not asking her out and then hoping she’ll fall in love with you. If the only reason you act like a friend is because you’re hoping she’ll eventually sleep with you… well, you’re an idiot, obviously, but you’re also not actually nice guy.

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by Soda http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-187 Soda Sat, 23 Aug 2008 01:50:39 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-187 And then it hit me, Why could i see this before hand? but then again i dated the nice guy and we didn't work out. And then it hit me, Why could i see this before hand? but then again i dated the nice guy and we didn’t work out.

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by Amy http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-181 Amy Thu, 21 Aug 2008 05:35:39 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-181 Any guy who thinks any of this is just a self deluded narcissist. You can't get a girl, so you blame it on the girl? Don't you see why that's wrong? Since you obviously don't, that just reflects why you don't have a girlfriend. Any guy who thinks any of this is just a self deluded narcissist. You can’t get a girl, so you blame it on the girl? Don’t you see why that’s wrong? Since you obviously don’t, that just reflects why you don’t have a girlfriend.

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by Terrabit http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-180 Terrabit Thu, 21 Aug 2008 04:17:29 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-180 Most females have no clue *sigh*, It is not him being a baby or whinny it is the principle that most of the opposite sex mostly looks for a mate that will have Money, successful, good looking, and social views (friends,family,society, and others) Instead of what matters as passion, chemistry, and in the end love, who knows a good guy you forced in the friend zone could most likely make your life so much better no cause he worships you that's just dumb cause he cares Most females have no clue *sigh*, It is not him being a baby or whinny it is the principle that most of the opposite sex mostly looks for a mate that will have Money, successful, good looking, and social views (friends,family,society, and others) Instead of what matters as passion, chemistry, and in the end love, who knows a good guy you forced in the friend zone could most likely make your life so much better no cause he worships you that’s just dumb cause he cares

]]> Comment on The purpose? by copysquirl http://www.disillusionedself.com/2006/09/25/the-purpose/#comment-177 copysquirl Tue, 19 Aug 2008 18:20:43 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=68#comment-177 happens all the time to me - has been for years. in the short term, call in sick and take three days to just stay away from all your normal places, things and people. in the long run, travel and get involved. or not. sometimes just a nap helps. make something. it's your life and there's no reason it can't be whatever you want. at best, stay home for an hour and just feel guilty that this is all your own choice. sometimes that's fun too. happens all the time to me - has been for years. in the short term, call in sick and take three days to just stay away from all your normal places, things and people. in the long run, travel and get involved. or not. sometimes just a nap helps. make something.

it’s your life and there’s no reason it can’t be whatever you want. at best, stay home for an hour and just feel guilty that this is all your own choice.

sometimes that’s fun too.

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by Adam http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-173 Adam Sun, 17 Aug 2008 15:48:54 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-173 Sometimes it's hard to find these gems like this article. I really liked it. Sometimes it’s hard to find these gems like this article. I really liked it.

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by not butthurt http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-170 not butthurt Wed, 13 Aug 2008 08:27:23 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-170 Admin: you speak absolute truth about obese/ugly women and baggage. Though from the way I see it, "nice guys" that grovel and fuss have it about the same--that's my point. Everyone wants to complain and feel entitled to nice mates while refusing to consider that they may come across as one giant walking deal-breaker to the opposite sex. Whose fault is that? Admin: you speak absolute truth about obese/ugly women and baggage. Though from the way I see it, “nice guys” that grovel and fuss have it about the same–that’s my point. Everyone wants to complain and feel entitled to nice mates while refusing to consider that they may come across as one giant walking deal-breaker to the opposite sex. Whose fault is that?

]]> Comment on What Happened to All the Nice Guys? by Liz http://www.disillusionedself.com/2007/12/22/what-happened-to-all-the-nice-guys/#comment-168 Liz Tue, 12 Aug 2008 04:39:33 +0000 http://www.disillusionedself.com/?p=77#comment-168 Lets try that again... Here he is: http://img.waffleimages.com/7bfafcea60c8124fdfc859a0dfa782280a3e2eba/n118500415_30955412_5775.jpg I'm the last person to be arrogant about my looks, I'm no supermodel... I'm the wallflower. But even a wallflower can tell the difference between real affection and the "nice guy" obsessing with you. That man is more man than any "nice guy" will ever be. ...tell me... why don't you nice guys just hook up with "nice girls?" whatever you just answered... that's why we don't date you. Hypocrites. All of you. Whiny hypocrites. Lets try that again…

Here he is:

http://img.waffleimages.com/7bfafcea60c8124fdfc859a0dfa782280a3e2eba/n118500415_30955412_5775.jpg

I’m the last person to be arrogant about my looks, I’m no supermodel… I’m the wallflower. But even a wallflower can tell the difference between real affection and the “nice guy” obsessing with you. That man is more man than any “nice guy” will ever be.

…tell me… why don’t you nice guys just hook up with “nice girls?” whatever you just answered… that’s why we don’t date you. Hypocrites. All of you. Whiny hypocrites.

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